Balance the functions as the main caregiver of her mother with the demands of running a business, let Kelsey Kelley, 63, feel overwhelmed and worn. For years, he prayed for his brother to help, but was constantly disappointed and frustrated. At that time, a simple change of mentality helped her turn resentment into joy.
Hopefully I could clone -Met, thought Kelsey Kellley as he looked at his calendar, trying to squeeze ten -day tasks in one week. Between the honor of his labor commitments and solely responsible for ensuring that his mother’s meals and daily medicines were prepared and easily accessible, despite having a nearby brother who could help, but he did not -who constantly fought feeling irritated and guilty. Here, in his words, Kelsey shares how he overcome his brother’s resentment and learned to focus on his mother’s precious moments.
“For years, my mother has lived with COPD and her health has slowly diminished. But by the beginning of 2023 she also began to fall, which caused a hand injury that left her unable to drive or do most tasks from day to day.
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“At first, taking the mother to her weekly hair appointment or collecting her recipes was not difficult to fit -in my day. Rarely she left home, so she had already been shopping for groceries, helping her to order her apartment and cook the meals.
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“But as the months passed, I realized that my mother told me that she had warmed up the meals I prepared and was drinking the meal replacement drinks, but when I reviewed the fridge, I would find food and drinks intact. It was when I realized that I also needed someone to eaten.
“Although I am grateful to the mother just 15 minutes away, spending several hours a day at her home for feeding, bathing and managing her medication was not realistic while working full time.
Luckily, my mother’s sister voluntarily offered to help with small tasks, and my niece, one of God, visits a couple of times a week to make sure her mother eats. I also have two brothers: my average brother, who lives out of the state, and our younger brother, who is near, but recently to help, leaving him on his shoulders. “”
“I look at my role in mother’s life as one that is difficult but gives us the opportunity to share beautiful moments together” – Kelsey Kelice
To feel -alone
“ I love the two very expensive brothers and I am grateful that my middle brother would go away when things get difficult. But I also wish my younger brother would pass and help me more with my mother.It would often spend months without calling -he always had excuses for not being able to participate, such as navigation on summer weekends, although, although, simply, saying he was “ furious. ”
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“As the mother’s health deteriorated, requiring daily supervision, I was getting more and more frustrated than my little brother was not involved and tired of his excuses. During a prolonged hospital stay, he sent a text with some” suggestions “on how to help the mother. However, these were things that he had been months ago.
“” Oh, thank you for the big idea, “I got a hand out loud when I read their message. If I really care, I would know what everyone had been doing, I smoked.
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“After months of juggling with the care of my business and my mother without pray, my resentment was almost at a boiling point. So I was completely shocked when one day, my mother said that my younger brother came to see -he brought his lunch. It turned out that my average brother had emphasized the need for someone to ease that his mother eats and had more social interaction.
“The next day, while explaining his visit with my younger brother and how he had promised to stop, more often, my mother’s face was shining. He made my heart climb seeing -so happy and suddenly I realized that his joy surpassed my anger.
“Since then, I have been committed to leaving -to focus and to use all the opportunities to create beautiful memories with her. I have also accepted that everyone, including my little brother, has their own ability to take care of. My role is not easy, but now, instead of seeing -as something I have to take alone, I see our time together as a blessing.”
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